The purpose and spirit in which criticism is given is what makes all the difference.
Constructive criticism from even a stranger is useful. Say for example you see someone coming from the bathroom at the library. You see TP stuck to their shoe. Some people could laugh and criticise her for being so oblivious or someone could quietly point out the mistake, helping her in the process.
Negative criticism's purpose is to demean. Example: a woman is quietly nursing her baby at the park with a light blanket over her shoulder to hide anything. Another woman walks up and comments "That's just child abuse to make your baby suck on a sex object!" (I was that nursing mother btw) That kind of comment/criticism serves no useful purpose and is degrading, selfish and harsh.
If the opinion does not apply to you or is not useful to you, Ignore it. If it is useful than USE it. Take criticism in the spirit in which it is offered.
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