I'm wondering if you've ever been accused of being a control freak...
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1. Do you feel uncomfortable about acknowledging that someone else's opinion or way of doing something may be better than your own?
2. Being so wise, do you believe you know what is best for other people, your friends and family?
3. Do you like to share your wisdom often - offering advice whether it's asked for or not?
4. Do you worry that something is going to go wrong unless you keep an eye on it and have some control over events?
5. Do you feel threatened by other people's opposing opinions or attitudes?
6. Do you have an obsession about checking and re-checking the work you do, and the work others do?
7. Do you have to do everything yourself, because nobody else can do it as well as you... only you know how to do it properly?
8. What partners do you choose? Do you feel stressed or out of control in your relationships where give and take is required?
9. Have you lost previous partners because you want everything your way?
10. Is Bossy your middle name?
YOUR SCORE:
Mostly Yeses: You're probably a really nice person, and if everyone else understood that your need to control stemmed from your insecurities and fears, they'd cut you a little slack, yes? The problem is, with understanding or not, other people are going to become alienated unless you learn to "control" yourself! Stop trying to take over... practice being more flexible
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based on some of your thread style - -i'd say you qualify as mainly yesses...
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Keep in mind that control freaks are not trying to hurt you – they’re trying to protect themselves. Remind yourself that their behavior toward you isn’t personal; the compulsion was there before they met you, and it will be their forever unless they get help. Understand that they are skilled manipulators, artful and intimidating, rehearsed debaters and excellent at distorting reality.
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Take a deep breath Jinn... Relax...