Zeraph

By some hints in your post I think you are misinterpreting me. Several things, like "conservative-types" you thought I meant conservatives in the political sense, but you jumped to that conclusion, and brought in politics, not me.

You also seem to have the idea that I think anal sex is bad, as in "not normal" in the bad sense. I do not think so, I like it, just with my experience it is not common. These boards are by no means a cross-section of the population of the world. And I trust no statisitcs that are not in a peer reviewed scientific journal. If you have any of those you'd like to link me to, I'd be happy to be enlightened.

I agree that when we're about to have sex with a woman, we are not generally worried about castration. But I disagree that women are worried about being raped when theyre about to have sex with someone that they want to anyway (in general, there are always exceptions)... As far as pregnancy goes, why wouldn't the guy be just as worried as the gal?

As far as those things you mentioned with first times, well guys are generally as worried/anxious as the gals.

As far as other ideas/theories, they are already out there. I have read some of them, but I do not have the time nor patience to go find them again and explain them properly. This is not an arrogant or high and mighty thing, I really just don't want to...if I found the proper research on each topic that the tfp brought up, I'd have no time to live my life. So I try to just give my opinion based on what I've experienced and read without getting too technical and time consuming.