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I was 24 before I lost my virginity. To my hubby. We had sex just over a year before we got married. In our case it has worked out BUT we both have seen the pitfall that we stumbled over.
We were both raised in strictly religious homes. So often when our families would hear about someone getting caught having had sex and then making plans to get married the verdict was - well at least they're getting married. The mindset wast that if you has sex with the person you had to marry them to 'make it right'. and that's how we ended up looking at our premarital sex. We ended up marrying each other even though we did not love each other and were scared out of our wits. Hubby married me for more sex, I married him to get out of my parents house and we married each other because we felt we had to in order to make us not feel bad about having had premarital sex. We have discussed this and know those are the reasons we got married. We have since been through a lot together and learned to love each other. We have also changed our outlook on sex. If we hadn't been brainwashed to attach so much emotion to sex then I think our lives would have been totally different.
I said all that to say this - How were you raised? Do you attach much emotional involvement to sex? The amount of emotional attachment may be more than you estimate so be careful about that answer. If you were not raised to place much or any emotional attachment to sex, then go for it. If it was the other way around, more like our childhood training then avoid it until you are quite emotionally attached to a girl of marriage material.
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"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma. 
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