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Yeah, I've been cheated on before. I stayed and am still with the cheater. It's been really hard. If I had to do it all over again, I would have been stronger and left. It's way too hard IMO to stay. You're always wondering if they're talking to (or doing anything with)the person that they cheated with still. You now know that they don't value as much as you thought. It's been about 9 months since he last talked to the girl, as far as I know. Just now, my trust is slowly making its way back. Nine months! I didn't realize that until just now. We're both older and I guess that's the main reason I stayed. I was afraid to be alone. But the experience taught me something. It taught me my limits and it has in the end made me a stronger person. I have made it very clear that if I am put in that situation again, I will not even fight. I will just pick up and leave and never look back. I don't need that in my life or the kind of person who would do that to me again. The main reason I wouldn't stay if I had to decide all over again is that our bond is weaker. I really feel that if someone were to sweep me off my feet I would now definitely consider leaving him. But I guess I stayed because he is usually very sweet and considerate and I really feel that he loves me.
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