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I don't think this analogy applies to sexual fantasies. I loved reading dune too but it didn't give me a woody. If you get turned on by the thought of your woman with another woman, she wants to do it as well, why not? This isn't a fantasy in the fictional magic sense. The difference between a sexual fantasy and reality is about 30 minutes of your time and a willing participant or two, or three..well you get the idea.
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I didn't get a woody from Dune either, but I was stimulated in a place that usually doesn't get stimulated: my need for adventure. I don't see that as too different from the libido: my need for sex. It's a matter of putting yourself into a different reality in which you can satiate desires that would not be apporpriate or possible to satiate otherwise.
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Using your analogy the reason you watch a porn is the same as you watch Citizen Cane. The motivations are completely different though.
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I don't care for Citizen Cane. Again, this is about escapism, whether you are eescaping for porn or any other form of stimulation.
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If you have a strong relationship, and you don't define it based on sex, living out your fantasies together can be not only 'fun' but make your relationship even stronger. Christian forced monogamy is not the natural human state, and leads to a great deal of unnecessary strife. Everyone has their limits, but if you both want to try something, why not do it?
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I don't define my relationship with my wife on sex alone, although it's incredible. I define our relationship by all it's facets, but neither of us are intereted in a 3-some in reality. If it's not fun for either of us, why persue it? Whether or not monogamy is natural, I enjoy it.
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I really think its kind of sad that people are so worried about being themselves sexually, and so confined by jealousy and insecurity that they are missing out on a really wonderful part of life. Slaying the green eyed monster and getting to know your partner loves YOU for who you are not because they are your sperm depository is really a great feeling.
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I don't know why I'm not interested in a 3-some in real life, but I'm not. It's really that simple. Whether it's Jodeo-Christian programming or simply the way I am, it's just not on my list of things to do.