When I was 14 my mother informed me that she had two abortions prior to having married my father. Perhaps due to the fact that these were only (and I say "only" very lightly) potential half-siblings, that fact wasn't so much disturbing.
More traumatizing was probably the circumstances under which she decided to dump and share her own guilt regarding this information on her teenage children. So I'd be curious to know if the impact from discovering this information differs depending on the circumstances under which it was shared (is she trying to teach? trying to scare? just using you as an emotional dumping ground?)
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