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Originally Posted by Tamerlain
I agree as well.
Another thought I would add. When I have experienced someone saying "that's stupid," it's usually the only thing they say. I'm sure most of us have experienced that. I'm also sure we've all heard "I dunno, it just is" when we ask for an explanation.
It's easy to be offended if I've taken the time to explain a thought or idea and all someone has to say is "that's stupid."
It would be like me saying "this poll is stupid" without saying why.
-Tamerlain
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But if you called this poll stupid, no matter how much better you could have explained yourself and no matter how much it might insult Analog that you said it in such a rude way I would certainly never think that you were saying that Analog is stupid. You were just saying the poll is stupid.
How about some analogies:
- You draw a picture and your SO comes by look and inconsideratly says, "that sucks".
Will you be upset at your SO? Probably
Will you be justified for being upset? Probably
Is your SO saying that you suck or the drawing sucks
- What id you come up with a joke and tell it to your SO and your SO says, "that's dumb"
Is your SO saying that you are dumb or that the joke is dumb?
- You attempt to make dinner and your SO tastes it and says "this is really bad"
Is your SO saying that you are bad or that the food is bad?
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Originally Posted by blade02
I feel that people who think Im calling them stupid are trying way too hard to find "deeper meaning" in what I think.
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I think that blade02 is correct but I would say it this way:
I feel that people who think I'm calling them stupid, may have gotten upset (rightfully) becuase of what I said are trying way too hard to find "deeper meaning" in what I think.
I should add that it is definately not nice to say these things, but that was not the question.