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astrahl · 03-08-2006, 08:53 PM

1st: You should feel comfortable with the situation. The way you feel going into the situation will determine the experience you have.

2nd: If you decide to go for it, here are the four most important letters ever: L-U-B-E. The wetter, the better.

3rd: Relaxation is also key. The more tense and clenched you are, the more it will hurt. If he is a big boy, it may hurt anyway, but it will help you if you are relaxed.

The act is alot different from vaginal sex, and hopefully, your partner understands that. It isn't the same kind of fast thrusting that vaginal sex can be. He has to be very observant for your sake. He should start out very slow and cautious. The first sessions are going to have to be a test for your comfort level. If things go too fast, you can get hurt which will turn you off to the idea altogether.

Go very slow, use the lube, relax.

If it feels wrong, don't do it. Don't think that just because some people on the forum rave about it that it will be great for you. Hubby and I have tried it and frankly, I don't care for it at all.

If you are curious about how it will feel, try a small dildo first. If you like that, explore further, but using a sex toy may help give you a sense of whether or not you enjoy the sensation.

03-08-2006, 08:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
astrahl Insane Location: You don't want to live here	1st: You should feel comfortable with the situation. The way you feel going into the situation will determine the experience you have. 2nd: If you decide to go for it, here are the four most important letters ever: L-U-B-E. The wetter, the better. 3rd: Relaxation is also key. The more tense and clenched you are, the more it will hurt. If he is a big boy, it may hurt anyway, but it will help you if you are relaxed. The act is alot different from vaginal sex, and hopefully, your partner understands that. It isn't the same kind of fast thrusting that vaginal sex can be. He has to be very observant for your sake. He should start out very slow and cautious. The first sessions are going to have to be a test for your comfort level. If things go too fast, you can get hurt which will turn you off to the idea altogether. Go very slow, use the lube, relax. If it feels wrong, don't do it. Don't think that just because some people on the forum rave about it that it will be great for you. Hubby and I have tried it and frankly, I don't care for it at all. If you are curious about how it will feel, try a small dildo first. If you like that, explore further, but using a sex toy may help give you a sense of whether or not you enjoy the sensation. __________________ Maybe it was over when she chucked me out the Rover at full speed. Maybe Maybe... ~a-Ha Last edited by astrahl; 03-08-2006 at 08:56 PM..