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Lucifer · 02-23-2006, 04:31 AM

Hey Ben, I'm right there with you.
My wife and I split up on the 6th with both Valentine's Day and her birthday in the next two weeks. We'd been living together for 3 years, almost to the day and it was one of the hardest decisions I've had to made. We still had strong feelings for each other, but realized that we weren't in love anymore, and had grown away from each other and the situation wasn't going to improve. There were a lot of times that I thought we should stay together just to avoid the whole splitting up thing, and how complicated it was going to be, with bank accounts and credit cards, etc.
We were living in St. John's, and we had furniture here and in storage in Ontario, plus the two cats living here. After I said that we should split, things started to improve between us almost immediately. We talked more, and went out and did things together. But the hardest thing was coming up with a date for her to move out. At first she said that she wanted to stay until the beginning of March (!!), but then she said that she wanted to be home for her birthday on the 19th, but she couldn't decide on a date. So I decided for her, I bought a flight, set the date, and we started working towards that date. And it has worked out.
I'm by myself now, and I'm in a happier place, and I know that things will work out for you as well. Rely on your friends on the TFP, and we'll see you through it.

02-23-2006, 04:31 AM	#20 (permalink)
Lucifer Husband of Seamaiden Location: Nova Scotia	Hey Ben, I'm right there with you. My wife and I split up on the 6th with both Valentine's Day and her birthday in the next two weeks. We'd been living together for 3 years, almost to the day and it was one of the hardest decisions I've had to made. We still had strong feelings for each other, but realized that we weren't in love anymore, and had grown away from each other and the situation wasn't going to improve. There were a lot of times that I thought we should stay together just to avoid the whole splitting up thing, and how complicated it was going to be, with bank accounts and credit cards, etc. We were living in St. John's, and we had furniture here and in storage in Ontario, plus the two cats living here. After I said that we should split, things started to improve between us almost immediately. We talked more, and went out and did things together. But the hardest thing was coming up with a date for her to move out. At first she said that she wanted to stay until the beginning of March (!!), but then she said that she wanted to be home for her birthday on the 19th, but she couldn't decide on a date. So I decided for her, I bought a flight, set the date, and we started working towards that date. And it has worked out. I'm by myself now, and I'm in a happier place, and I know that things will work out for you as well. Rely on your friends on the TFP, and we'll see you through it. __________________ I am a brother to dragons, and a companion to owls. - Job 30:29 1123, 6536, 5321 Last edited by Lucifer; 02-23-2006 at 04:49 AM..