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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
Abaya, I wanted to say I think you and I are on much the same page; it sounds like what you have with ktspktsp is much like what my SO and I have.
I do think it is a continuum of choices: I choose my SO and I choose to only be with him.
The other thing that I've seen a lot in this thread that bothers me is the idea that society has dictated that we (my SO and I, or other mono couples) be monogamous. No, it was our choice. We discussed many alternatives before committing to monogamy. Society has never forced me, of all people, to do anything. Just ask my mother.
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I think this is the most important point of all. With any couple, deciding on monogamy or polygamy should be a mutual choice, not an obligation that one feels. As much as I believe in love being unlimited, I feel it is equally possible for two people to choose to reserve all feelings of amorous love to just one person without feeling as if they are missing out on anything.
It's all about choice, communication, respect, and honesty. Everything else will fall into place.