Originally Posted by abaya

I'm wondering though, Sweetpea, if this is really how mono-amorous (is that a word?) couples feel about their relationship/marriage? Or is this how polyamorous couples view those of us who are mono-amorous?

I ask this because sometimes I detect a tone of judgement going both ways on this thing... monos think polys are far too lenient, while polys think monos are too closed-minded and preoccupied with ownership. Really though, it comes down to quite different personalities/tastes/preferences, whatever you may call it... but I doubt that the *quality* of love actually differs between mono and poly couples. Love is love, no matter how many (or few) people you share it with.

Speaking for my part (of my relationship with ktspktsp), I think we grow and expand through the nature of our mono-amorous relationship; if it came to the point where I could not grow without bringing another amorous relationship in my life (or same for him), then we'd have to talk and see if we were on the same page. We've discussed this many times, and always agree to talk everything out if the situation arose. But I don't think it's an ownership thing, for us. We just really like to be in love with each other, and not really anyone else... simply because that's how *we* share our lives.