innovis

I've noticed that some guys, who aren't necessarily exceptional in any way, seem to have alot of girls who actively want their attention. I'm not talking romantic attention, necessarily, although that could be another part of it.

How do these guys achieve this?

I'm not a main part of the inner circle of most of my female friends, but I'd like to be, and I'd like to be introduced to their friends, and such. I'm finding more and more that I'm temporarily added to the inner circle because the girl wants to date me, but when the option to date me goes away (we decide to just be friends, or whatever), I get pushed back out but kept on as a distant friend. As a result throughout the entire process where I think I'm making a good friend, I'm actually just being introduced to the girls close friends to be evaluated, and not meeting any other girls who may be interested in being friends with me because they are respecting this girl's territory, and then I get pushed back out. I hope this makes sense...

My problem with this is, besides not really meeting many new people, is that these friends I make don't really seem dependable or interested in gradually becoming better friend friends after the fact. As in I'll invite them to activities or do stuff for them, but they won't do the same in return, or if they do it won't be with nearly as much frequency.