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I know one thing he loves about my character is that I bring a lot of peace and tranquility to his life. But I feel that he depends on me being there to feel good at all. I've become his "aspirin"..I love him very very much, and we have such a strong bond..but I'm very worried..My parents and brother are against me moving ahead with him, for the three reasons I stated above( divorced, much older, kid)
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taboo, as someone who has been there... if the man you "love" and who "loves" you depends on you in order to feel good... that's not Love, that's dependency. Same as an alcholic needing booze in order to make it through the day... that kind of "love" will leave you washed up, dried out, bitter, and broken.
You've said it right here, you are having DOUBTS. Your family, those who love you and are closest to you, are having DOUBTS. True love doesn't produce DOUBT, true love is pure, seamless, and perfect. You don't have doubts when you love someone 100% and they love you 100% (I mean, big doubts on the level you're having here).
You're young- you haven't had enough time in your life to do everything you want to do (live in another country, for one example). If you go forward with this relationship, most likely you will NEVER do those things. Your guy has a kid, that's his #1 priority- you will ALWAYS be #2... ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS. If he wants "tranquility" in his life, tell him to go take yoga, and stop depending on you.
Please, please, please taboo, don't put yourself through the hell I went through with a guy who "depended" on me for his happiness.... I couldn't bear the thought of another woman going through hell the way I did.
You are capabible of being loved by someone who is perfect for you, not just "good for right now." Let this guy grow up, stop looking for a trophy girlfriend to make him feel better about his age and his divorce, let him go so you can grow up and into a good, fufilled person with the ability to do whatever you want to do!