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Everybody worries about the risks they take, especially if real love is in the equation. Real love comes with real vulnerabilities! Some people we fall in love with respect that more than others. You don't seem to be raising any flags about him specifically, except that you are worried about the paths he has taken to get to you today. His path seems to be a little longer than you had expected, and he has company -- his child.
His child is as much a part of him as his body (if he loves that child, which I guess he does). The child can never be something to be considered separate from him. As long as he is willing to make a space just for the child, and a space just for you, it can work. I've seen relationships like this work. Those relationships are based on two people wanting to be together, not on all the reasons they shouldn't be together. There are always a million reasons not to do something. It's the reasons to take the risk and do it that are most important, IMO.
The one thing I didn't see in your posts is if you think he loves you as well. Is this a concern?
Do you want to be together with him? Is loving him better than being without him? Is there somethig specific in your life you feel you would have to sacrifice in order to be with him?
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