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Originally posted by Balaniki
Newbie here ladies. Something that has been happening lately with my husband and I - I just can't seem to get to an orgasm without using the vibrator. He will be going down on me and I'm RIGHT THERE - on the edge - but I just can't seem to go over.
The o's I get from the vibrator are different from the ones I get from his mouth. The o's from his mouth are deeper and I can ride them longer. The ones from the vibrator are stronger but I can't ride them at all - too strong.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
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Balaniki- welcome.
I don't know if one can use toys too much, but since you raised the question, here are my comments.
Are there two issues here? One, that you can't get off right now simply thru oral pleasuring and two, that you would like to be able to ride your orgasms longer, and you can't while using a vibrator?
What I think has happened is that you've gotten somewhat desensitized by using the vibe, thus needing the extra oomph that a vibrator provides.
If so, would turning down the vibrator to a lower speed help at all to lessen the intensity and extend the ride?
I masturbate on my own, and I know that I need more stimulation going it alone to achieve orgasm, than with my husband, who gets me much more excited than my toys do.
Also, masturbating on your own once in a while might give you a bit more control of the threshold, so to speak, of your orgasms. Sometimes when I masturbate by myself, I stop before orgasm, then later make love with my husband. Orgasms achieved with him then are always a really good, long ride.