This is a perfect example of the "buddy-system" trust relationship that we see every day. If you go to a mechanic that you think looks good, but no one has ever been there before, you're taking a big risk.
However, if you go to a mechanic that you know someone has been to and has been at least satisfied with, then you corroborate your assumption that it's a good decision and are more likely to go there.
It's about what you think vs what you think the world thinks:
There's really only a few assumptions you can safely make about a single guy:
He's male.
He's attractive to ME.
As you can see, there's very few assumptions you can make with a high probability of being true. A man in a relationship, however, has many more.
He's in a relationship, so that means someone else thought he was one or more of the following:
Nice
Hot
Rich
Caring
Good in bed
Loving
Kind
Funny
While it may could be one or it could be all, being in a relationship means that he's been given the "used mechanic" stamp, and you corroborate your personal opinion with the world opinion.
So, "Nice Guys," maybe your strategy should be to pretend you're in a relationship until she gets interested, and then whip out the "I'm not in a relationship" card. BLAMO, it's like the 1-2-3 punch in the game of probability that relationships are.
And to the guys actually IN relationships, be happy that you get the best of both worlds; an awesome girlfriend, and people thinking you're better in some way than you probably are!
That's my take on it, anyway..
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