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I've come to realize recently that relationships are one of the very few exceptions to the "think first, then act" paradigm that we learn as children. In nearly everything known to mankind, more benefit is given to those who think about the results before executing the plan to get those results. My theory is that relationships should be processed in the completely opposite order. What you're thinking about here essentially breaks down into a "mating strategy." Word it how you will, that's the essense of trying to figure out what is the most successful way for you to have a relationship. However, due to the nature of humanity, you cannot predict the responses to your strategy with any reliable degree of probability. The only way to know is to try it (empircally) many many times. If it's sucessful, then it's a successful mating strategy. If it isn't, then you need to modify your strategy and try again. I think this is why so many people get stuck in the "Nice Guy/Asshole Guy/Protector" conundrums. Neither you or I can predict how successful it will be on any given person/relationship; the result is ONLY provided by trying it out. If it turns out that you can't find a girl who accepts you being a more masculine figurehead, then its time to either (a) find another girl (b) modify your strategy. I don't mean to dissuade you from discussing, but keep in mind that no amount of "planning" is ever going to guarantee higher levels of success. On the contrary -- relationships that start "randomly" seem to fair much better in the long run.
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