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Ustwo · 01-25-2006, 11:57 PM

I have a inlaw who would enjoy being a Nazi.

His grandfather was a member of the Waffen SS, and he has on more than one occasion made comments of the 'Hitler wasn't all bad' variaty.

He is also a great guy to be around, good with kids, works hard, etc etc.

I've found some of his comments indirectly offensive at times, and while I have called him out in a friendly manner I'm not going to make a big fuss over it. Were I Jewish, Russian, or the like I'd be most likely very offended but I don't think its my job to be offended for everyone else in the world. He may have his opinions but its not like he is attending a local Illinois Nazi meeting.

Likewise everyone has their tolerance limits. I've been in clubs where there have been people openly having sex, be it male-female or female-female. This did not offend me. Had it been male-male I wouldn't have been offended but I sure as hell would have been turned off, as I find male-male sex acts disgusting. Am I a bigot because of this? Perhaps but I'm willing to accept the fact that I find such activities to be disgusting and I'm not going to lose any sleep over it.

Now that that rambleing statment is out of the way, more to the point.

Could I date, marry a homophobic woman? Perhaps I did, as she is more turned off by male-male sex than I am and while I don't think that makes one a homophobe, I'm sure some would disagree. If she were a true homophobe, I'd learn to live with it as it would affect such a minor portion of our lives that it would not be worth throwing the rest out. I would do this because homophobia isn't a major issue on my moral compass.

So the question is, as others have stated, where it stands with you, and how it would affect your time together.

01-25-2006, 11:57 PM	#17 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	I have a inlaw who would enjoy being a Nazi. His grandfather was a member of the Waffen SS, and he has on more than one occasion made comments of the 'Hitler wasn't all bad' variaty. He is also a great guy to be around, good with kids, works hard, etc etc. I've found some of his comments indirectly offensive at times, and while I have called him out in a friendly manner I'm not going to make a big fuss over it. Were I Jewish, Russian, or the like I'd be most likely very offended but I don't think its my job to be offended for everyone else in the world. He may have his opinions but its not like he is attending a local Illinois Nazi meeting. Likewise everyone has their tolerance limits. I've been in clubs where there have been people openly having sex, be it male-female or female-female. This did not offend me. Had it been male-male I wouldn't have been offended but I sure as hell would have been turned off, as I find male-male sex acts disgusting. Am I a bigot because of this? Perhaps but I'm willing to accept the fact that I find such activities to be disgusting and I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. Now that that rambleing statment is out of the way, more to the point. Could I date, marry a homophobic woman? Perhaps I did, as she is more turned off by male-male sex than I am and while I don't think that makes one a homophobe, I'm sure some would disagree. If she were a true homophobe, I'd learn to live with it as it would affect such a minor portion of our lives that it would not be worth throwing the rest out. I would do this because homophobia isn't a major issue on my moral compass. So the question is, as others have stated, where it stands with you, and how it would affect your time together. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.