These all come down to what is called 'Labelling'.
Basically its giving a name which has all sorts of meaning, only some of which, at best, are accurate and even then for only a moment in time.
Because I answer a question wrong doesn't mean I'm stupid in general. It means I didn't know the answer to that question.
What disturbs me most is when it is used against children.
You are lazy. You are a slow poke etc. You are spoiled.
These general tags are not accurate and should not be used. as they can really hurt an individual or make a perosn feel that is what they are in general.
Its a hard habit to break, and I am still working on it, but my wife showed me that this was a pervasive problem in our society and I have to agree.
It is possible to not use labelling.
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