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Blackouts are very serious and a sign of alcoholism. I've never had those, but I know many people who have and most of those people have drinking problems. She should do some research and look into her family past. Alcoholism is genetic, which is another reason I have to be very careful about drinking.
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Agreed, Blacking out is by far the most disturbing point for me. What makes it exceptionally terrifying is how she had relatively little to drink and how much more sober she was than she typically is.
I am not sure if it is possible for her to be an alchoholic - simply because she very rarely drinks. She probably goes out on average of 1-2 times per month, and she vary seldom drinks unless she is out. However, I firmly believe that the reason she goes out that seldom is based soley on the fact that she has to work a lot of weekends, and not because she only wants to go out that often...
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As for the clothes, that's just a non-issue. The alcohol lowers her inhibitions, the clothes aid to that, but are not the factor. I used to think that clothes made a difference. While they can make people look at you in a slightly different way, it doesn't matter if she's wearing a bulky sweater or a tank, if she's pretty and flirtatious, the guys will be attracted. Of course, that is my experience and I may be off-base here...I'm not a guy obviously.
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Although I may not be considered the typical guy, I would argue this point with you. If I see a very attractive girl dressed in non-revealing attire my reaction is entirely different (as well as my perception of her) than seeing that same girl wearing very revealing clothing. Especially in the case of the revealing attire, I imagine that the guys think even less of her as a person, and more of a girl as a sexual object.
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My advice is to keep communication open. Let her know what bothers you and why you are concerned. Understand that it takes time and she may not be willing to change. Then you have to decide what you will accept and go from there.
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This is a tough one for me. We communicate relatively well otherwise, but she always gets very defensive when we talk about alchohol in general. I never would want to be the type of boyfriend that would say "You can NEVER _______", nor say anything that could be interpreted in that way. I feel like since she knows my feelings, the ball is in her court, and she continues to do nothing about it...