ara3n

Hello
This is my first post. I've been visiting TFP for about 4 years, and have read a lot of interesting topics here, but never replied. So here is something I've noticed during interacting with waitress or waiter when I'm with another person dinning. Well they never look at me, always at the other person that is with me, and other people are my friends, my coworkers, or clients. I've talked to one coworker about this, and she suggested that I should grin and have a happy face, to be more approachable. When the waitresses ask a question to both of us, e.g. are you ready to order? Or how are you today? Or how about desert, or any other kind of questions, the waitress looks at me for a second and looks at the other person and waits for him or her to answer. I feel like they think I am an indecisive person, and can’t answer for both. So I would like to know how I can change that, and you might think I'm crazy or something, but this has bugged me for a while. I’m an introvert so I am not asking for attention. I'm trying to figure out what people think when they see me. Do they get scared, is it my race? I'm from Afghanistan btw. Is it my eight? 6"2'. I’ve been long enough in US to know how to behave in a restaurant, and have dinned in hundreds but as I mentioned above, when I’m with somebody else, the waitress looks at the other person almost every time to make a decision. I don’t think it’s just the area I live in, because when I travel for work, I see the same results, and I’ve been to many places on east cost, and even central US. If they are asking a question, should I be looking somewhere? Any advice