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Originally Posted by Martian
smooth, that serves to illustrate my point really. My case is a bad example, as we've been together for a year now and neither of us had been active for about a year prior to that, which is why we can be reasonably sure that we're okay. I'm also as sure as I've ever been that this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. If that's not the case, if the relationship hasn't been going on for very long or if you have any doubts at all, it's just not worth the risk.
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I don't mean to turn this into a herpes thread, but the original direction from the OP sure wasn't really doing much for me, to be truthful...
anyway, I've been married for 5 years and before that was celibate for 4. Anything I have would be from 9 years ago...my wife was postively clean before she met me. Herpes can go unnoticed for years even with outbreaks and it can lurk for decades without the person even having a first episode.
Of course, you're right in that it doesn't much matter if you plan on being together forever since you would either need to go on daily suppressives and/or use condoms each session and that won't do for a monogamous couple! But the point is that you may or may not be clean as far as that particular STD goes, there really isn't any way to tell other than asking for a type specific test, and even then there are issues...length of time without a visible indicator doesn't work as a bill of OK. Even doctors have a difficult enough time diagnosing a full blown outbreak.
eh, I didn't mean to lecture you. I was just passing something along that I've recently had to learn a lot about.