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Originally Posted by abaya
As for the Chatty Kathy who stopped by your office... it's interesting that you immediately start to wonder about her motives. Motives? Do you think she might be out to hurt you? It 's important to know what's behind your reaction of suspicion. Has she given you any reason to be suspicious? Tell us about that if you can.
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No, she hasen't given me any reason to think she has ulterior motives, that all comes from inside me.
Maybe it's because whenever I interact with someone other than Grace or Sissy, I stop ahead of time to decide what the purpose of the interaction is so that I'll know what the rules are for the interaction. For example, when I asked her directions, in my mind, the purpose of the interaction was to get a specific piece of information from her.
So when an interaction doesn't go as expected, I stop to wonder what thir motive is, how it differs from mine.
The other thing is that my experience has been that letting people in means getting hurt. In my real life, Grace is the only person who has been an exception. My experience has also been that when people are nice, when they compliment or show an interest in me personally, it's because they want something from me.
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In my opinion, she's being friendly.  I guess I fall on the side of Jess in this sense.. yes, I don't like having random people talk to me when I am in my introverted place, but sometimes I see other people who seem shy, and I want to reach out to them, get to know them, even... BEFRIEND them.
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I get that, and I can see after the fact that that's probably what she was doing. I was trying to report what my thoughts were at the time, to help understand why I behaved and felt the way I did.
Gilda