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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
I this entry you state how it's acceptable to make mistakes, but at the same time that you don't want to make mistakes because of the negative consequences that come with them.
But that's all about making the mistake.
It's okay to have the negative consequences that come with the mistake. You aren't accepting of that portion of the mistake experience.
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That's what I was getting at. It isn't the mistake part that I mind, it's the consequences.
I fully accept that it's ok to make mistakes. I also think that it makes sense to avoid the mistakes whenever possible so as to avoid the negative consequences that come with them. I carefully avoided saying anything offensive and said only the minimum when talking to the woman Friday because there were actual consequences--delaying the directions part of the interaction--potential consequences--being offensive--and no benefits.
Plus, she seems like a very nice person, she seems to have a good grasp of the nature of the university subculture, and if I'm processing what she said accurately, we're the only two women in English teacher prep under the age of 50. So this is a person it would be good to have on my side. But even as I write that, it seems cold. It obviously would be inconsiderate of me to use her as a tool for my own benefit; I don't want to be the kind of person who does that, uses people.
Thus, it's even more important not to do or say anything that would make me seem foolish or offensive around her, at least until I know what will and won't do that.
Of course I don't actually go through that thought process at the time; at the time, I just keep thinking that I want to avoid offense, and I want to get the information I asked for.
Damn, I'm arguing with you again. I'll just stop now.
Gilda