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I'm not sure if you ARE a person who gets emotionally attached easily, or if you're just not sure what your reaction will be if things happen.
For me, I AM one of those people who gets emotionally attached easily. I knew from the word go that I couldn't have casual sex, or rather didn't want to, as I'd just feel horrible after - sex for me can never just be physical. Nevertheless, I have been in a few situations where it was pretty clear that if I did have sex with them, it could just be a one-off and nothing else would come of it. Sometimes when you're hooked on someone, it really doesn't matter anymore, you just want to live in the moment and dare to hope maybe he won't turn out to just walk away after it's done. I've gambled, and had good and bad outcomes.
I think if you like him and enjoy his company you should go ahead and do what you feel like doing. Maybe you should stop trying to over analyze the situation and just go with what you feel. It sounds like you are already quite attached to him. Think that even though it might not turn into anything more than a casual encounter, that it might go the other way. Just let it happen. And you don't have to feel used or guilty - unless you're expecting more from him and he doesn't offer you what you've made clear you want. If you haven't made it clear, then he wasn't using you, he was just doing what he felt like doing too...
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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