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Tilted Cat Head
Administrator
Location: Manhattan, NY
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I was asked if I wanted to sit at the counter, and declined (the counter is fine for jeans and a t-shirt, not so much in a short skirt). I was shown to a small two person booth just behind the little wall behind the cash register. I waited to be served, and nobody seemed to pay me any attention. The hostess passed by me to seat others several times. A busboy came by and gave me a glass of water and some silverware and took my drink order (Earl Grey tea). Nothing happened for five, ten minutes. I decided to wait a little bit. I read the newspaper I had gotten. The hostess continued to seat other people. I sipped my tea and waited. And waited. And began to wonder why the people who come in after me were being served. I decided to give it a few more minutes. Then a few more. I didn't want to make a scene, and I kept telling myself, well they're busy, they'll get to me in a minute. I started to analyze things, what was the problem here? Is my skirt too short? A straight skirt rides up a lot when you sit down. But what if that's the problem, will the people at the meeting notice? I dismissed that, but set it aside as a possibility. Maybe it's the pink ribbon. But why would people find breast cancer awareness objectionable? It's not like it's a rainbow ribbon? I dismissed this also. Was it my haircut? When I got this cut last month, I was going for a butch look. Do they see that, know that I'm a lesbian, and don't want me here because of that? That's ridiculous, nobody can see that from a haircut. Maybe it's my heels; are they a bit too much? Maybe they think three inch spikes with ankle straps is a bit too much, especially with my skirt riding up? Did I overdo my makeup? I tried to be professional but attractive. Maybe people dressed like I was don't tip well. Maybe they just don't like people who are dining alone for some reason. Maybe it's a combination of factors. And so on. After a half hour of putting it off for another five minutes, I decided that I didn't want to know, and it didn't really matter, so I got up and left.
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hmmmm from the way you describe it... it sounds like you were happy and got what you needed with the tea and didn't require more. My assumption as a server would have been if she needed more she would have requested it, especially since you were well dressed. My personal assumption is that someone who is well dressed is more assertive than someone who is casually or simply dressed and that they will make the request of what they want.
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