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Originally Posted by maleficent
There's lots of symbolism in weddings that (in my overly feministic mindset) take women back to the 1950s mindset of the little woman not being able to do anything for herself.
Why should a man have to be able to prove his ability to support a woman. If a woman can't support herself, she shouldn't be getting married. It sounds like its going from Daddys house to Hubbies house and always expecting someone to take care of her. Women are capable of taking care of themselves...
Don't even get me started on the whole 'giving away the bride' concept...  |
Interesting as I have been trying to explain the 'daddy's house to hubby's house' emotions to my spouse forever and he doesn't get it. I grew way too dependent on him over the years and when I finally made decisions independent of the marriage (going on trips alone, doing the photography, etc), he blew a gasket because he 'wasn't involved'.
We also lived together for 9 months until I basically whined that I wanted to get married, so I suppose I did the proposing. But I felt that this was the person I wanted to grow old with-being a girlfriend while sharing his home and life just didn't cut it.
Now all these years later, I see what I did wrong in leaning on him too much. Statistics, both national and personal, tell me I'll be widowed in the not too distant future. I need to find my own self NOW before I'm left thinking 'WTF just happened here?'
And, no ring....guess my doing the proposing screwed me out of that but no biggy.