{{{HUGS}}}
You spend a lot of time making other people laugh, and giving other people smiles with your stories and your great personality... We should make you laugh...
/me bops Ben with a big fluffy pillow and tickles him...
Seriously bub. I'm sorry it's come to this, and I'm sorry that you are having a hard time with these decisions. I think you've done the best you can and it's time to do what's best for you... You're important.
What shoudl you take? take what makes you happy and what's meaningful to you.. Don't take what you know she would be upset at losing (you've been the better person thru out all this, don't stop now)
Definitely get a lawyer, you want to protect your interests, and if need be, let someone else be the bad guy. How to find one? I'd check resources at work, see if anyone has any recommendations, if not is there a Canadian Bar Association that could give you some reccommendations.
When do leave? When you are ready. You will know when it's right, of that I'm convinced, if you leave too soon, you might be left with regrets that you didn't try hard enough or didn't do all you can. But also, don't stay too long, I've seem people stay too long in relationships that suffer personality changes.. It's not healthy.
/me puts on a disguise while she gets all serious-like...
You know we're here for ya, big guy, you aren't alone... and if there's anything you need... we got your back