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Gilda,
Speaking from the perspective of about 12+ years of reading on the topic of anti-social behavior, running the spectrum from swearing to serial rape/homicide, i can tell you that you are not imagining it, and "the guys who do this sort of thing have some sort of magical radar that tells them which girls are going to react which way."
Guys who make a habit out this sort of thing know how to read a girl. Much the same way a salesman can tell if you are buying, or browsing. He knew you would flee, rather than confront. Its not your fault, he just pegged you as a rabbit.
Now, I'm sorry to say all this, I realize its not going to make you feel any better, but it is what it is.
Fropm having read victim debriefs, and several profiles of serial rapists, the only way to avoid being targeted is to change the signals you send. Take a self-defense class, (and practice the things they teach you! Or else you will forget it all.) take a public speaking course, (To help you to feel comfortable with confronting the ass-clown next time.) and also, don't forget that when you are in a public space you have just as much of a right to be there as him.
Public spaces are also the most secure places. (Don't forget MOST guys LOVE coming to the aid of a girl in distress!! It is the most common sex fantasy, after all!) Confronting him means he has no ability to retaliate, thus you steal from him the threat behind physical size. Making a scene, also draws attention to him, and if he is inclined to follow you and cause trouble, being remembered is the LAST thing he wants!!!!
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