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Rodney · 10-22-2005, 08:05 PM

I think there are a lot of different reasons. My wife, for example, for years was really good at starting a craft or sewing or knitting project, putting it aside, and never getting back to it. The piles grew. And grew. She met other women who did the same thing. Then she read a self-help book by Barbara Sheer who equated the not-letting-go of the clutter to the not-letting-go of the dream behind the projects that my wife would never, in reality, get back to. Sheer said, pick two or three things that are most important to you, and junk the rest. If you haven't done it, you aren't going to. My wife took it to heart and cleared out the piles of might-have-beens. Now she does a lot of short projects that can be done in one or two sittings, and has one huge and important craft project which she works on assiduously. And our house is in pretty good shape.

So it's not just laziness. It can be that the letting go of an object means the letting go of a dream. And people are often loathe to do that, even if realistically it's never going to happen.

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Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	I think there are a lot of different reasons. My wife, for example, for years was really good at starting a craft or sewing or knitting project, putting it aside, and never getting back to it. The piles grew. And grew. She met other women who did the same thing. Then she read a self-help book by Barbara Sheer who equated the not-letting-go of the clutter to the not-letting-go of the dream behind the projects that my wife would never, in reality, get back to. Sheer said, pick two or three things that are most important to you, and junk the rest. If you haven't done it, you aren't going to. My wife took it to heart and cleared out the piles of might-have-beens. Now she does a lot of short projects that can be done in one or two sittings, and has one huge and important craft project which she works on assiduously. And our house is in pretty good shape. So it's not just laziness. It can be that the letting go of an object means the letting go of a dream. And people are often loathe to do that, even if realistically it's never going to happen.