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DonovanDuVal · 10-11-2005, 08:59 AM

What is easier, being slim, or becoming slim?

To most (apologies to those of you here to gain weight, this will probably not interest you) of you in this discussion the answer is obviously ‘being slim.’ The reason that I ask is that something occurred to me today.

When we need to shed a few pounds the effects that it can have on our confidence and drive may be a perpetuating factor. Doing the unfamiliar, certainly for me, is more difficult, because of my physical attributes. Sports or even the less strenuous activities in life can be marred by my self image. Not to a huge amount, but by a subtle degree, that can sometimes make all the difference.

An active social life may mean more than just exercise. It could be that it is as much about what we don’t do of a weekend that allows us to shed weight. Something that SF mentioned about going it out and drinking struck a chord with me. I love drinking, but obviously this would have a drastic affect on my gut line, so I stop.

Trouble is that I then find myself sat in bored of an evening with nothing to do to occupy my tiny mind. Had I been more confident in the past about going out and doing new things then I would have a different social grounding that would be of use here.

As it is I don’t, so I end up getting bored and finally give in and go get drunk again. The problem is that absence makes the heart grow fonder and the gap makes it seem so new and enjoyable that I am soon back out regularly and any lost inches soon reaffirm themselves back to my waist.

This it occurs to me is why they say ‘you should never deprive yourself on a diet.’ The everything in moderation (including moderation?) ideal, where we try to gain balance in our lives. For that reason this time around I am quite prepared to have a night on the lash once a week.

I guess what I am trying to highlight the importance of looking at weight loss as a change of lifestyle. If we think and act as we would were we slim, then surely this can only help us to achieve a healthy weight.

I realise this isn’t a complete solution, and certainly not as well thrashed out here as it no doubt has been in all the diet books. It’s just one portion (ha ha – pun!) that occurs to me, that relates to my struggle. So I thought that if I tried to put it into words then someone else might be able to benefit from it also.

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DonovanDuVal Crazy Location: UK	What is easier, being slim, or becoming slim? To most (apologies to those of you here to gain weight, this will probably not interest you) of you in this discussion the answer is obviously ‘being slim.’ The reason that I ask is that something occurred to me today. When we need to shed a few pounds the effects that it can have on our confidence and drive may be a perpetuating factor. Doing the unfamiliar, certainly for me, is more difficult, because of my physical attributes. Sports or even the less strenuous activities in life can be marred by my self image. Not to a huge amount, but by a subtle degree, that can sometimes make all the difference. An active social life may mean more than just exercise. It could be that it is as much about what we don’t do of a weekend that allows us to shed weight. Something that SF mentioned about going it out and drinking struck a chord with me. I love drinking, but obviously this would have a drastic affect on my gut line, so I stop. Trouble is that I then find myself sat in bored of an evening with nothing to do to occupy my tiny mind. Had I been more confident in the past about going out and doing new things then I would have a different social grounding that would be of use here. As it is I don’t, so I end up getting bored and finally give in and go get drunk again. The problem is that absence makes the heart grow fonder and the gap makes it seem so new and enjoyable that I am soon back out regularly and any lost inches soon reaffirm themselves back to my waist. This it occurs to me is why they say ‘you should never deprive yourself on a diet.’ The everything in moderation (including moderation?) ideal, where we try to gain balance in our lives. For that reason this time around I am quite prepared to have a night on the lash once a week. I guess what I am trying to highlight the importance of looking at weight loss as a change of lifestyle. If we think and act as we would were we slim, then surely this can only help us to achieve a healthy weight. I realise this isn’t a complete solution, and certainly not as well thrashed out here as it no doubt has been in all the diet books. It’s just one portion (ha ha – pun!) that occurs to me, that relates to my struggle. So I thought that if I tried to put it into words then someone else might be able to benefit from it also. __________________ "I've been Donovan DuVal. Take care of yourselves, and each other."