As with EVERYTHING else in life, balance --
A boorish troll screaming at me and cornering me isn't attractive, nor is a meek little mouse that will let me walk all over them...
If I were designing the "girlfriend application" it would definitely require that the applicant be able to rationally defend her ideals, while simultaneously being able to accept and support anothers. In reality, this is how everyone should act, not just 'girlfriend material.' If people were both more assertive and more understanding, the world be an entirely different place.
I've liked shy girls, but they became boring when I realized they were shy becuase they didn't have anything to actually SAY. They had nothing the felt passionately about, so why should I be any different? Likewise, I've been attracted to the outgoing girls who take charge, but it eventually becomes tiresome being dragged around by her powerful edicts.
It's all in being able to balance - accept and direct.
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