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vanblah · 09-30-2005, 07:37 AM

As you get older your tastes in people change. Your own personality changes as well ... someone may think you're great right now but in 10 years they may think the person you've become is unnatractive ( in the personality sense). That's why a lot of people get divorced ... they call it "growing apart."

What we really need to do is learn to love the person we're with as THEY change as well. It's funny how we can become the person that our loved ones want us to be if we only try. The reverse is true as well ... we can love the person our loved one has become because if the relationship is working the way it's supposed to they are trying to become the person we want them to be. Selfishness prevents us from becoming the person that our loved ones want us to be.

There are times when problems in relationships are truely insurmountable ... I'm not saying that there is never a reason for divorce (or break up). We've all heard people say things like, "I shouldn't have to change for you," but it's gone to an extreme.

But I digress ...

So to the point ... if you're constantly looking for the person you were enamored with in high school you may end up blinding yourself to a much better potential.

It's also unfair to compare one person to another in general. Each person IS unique in the sense that only they have gone through the experiences that make up their personality.

09-30-2005, 07:37 AM	#8 (permalink)
vanblah Junkie	As you get older your tastes in people change. Your own personality changes as well ... someone may think you're great right now but in 10 years they may think the person you've become is unnatractive ( in the personality sense). That's why a lot of people get divorced ... they call it "growing apart." What we really need to do is learn to love the person we're with as THEY change as well. It's funny how we can become the person that our loved ones want us to be if we only try. The reverse is true as well ... we can love the person our loved one has become because if the relationship is working the way it's supposed to they are trying to become the person we want them to be. Selfishness prevents us from becoming the person that our loved ones want us to be. There are times when problems in relationships are truely insurmountable ... I'm not saying that there is never a reason for divorce (or break up). We've all heard people say things like, "I shouldn't have to change for you," but it's gone to an extreme. But I digress ... So to the point ... if you're constantly looking for the person you were enamored with in high school you may end up blinding yourself to a much better potential. It's also unfair to compare one person to another in general. Each person IS unique in the sense that only they have gone through the experiences that make up their personality. Last edited by vanblah; 09-30-2005 at 07:40 AM..