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amire · 09-29-2005, 06:10 PM

Hello all. Two things really quick before I go into the meat of my post: first of all, if this is in the wrong forum, please feel free to move my post. My question has its roots in semi-romantic feelings I have had for someone, but it's much more general than a question about romance, as you will see. And if I've missed a thread with a similar topic, please do stop me. I know there's one asking if we can ever truly be unique, and this is related to what I'm asking, but it's not an identical question.

Ok, so here's how this all came about. When I was in high school, I had a semi-crush on a REALLY nice, fun, awesome girl. But I never really pursued her as much as I should have, and she didn't seem amazing at the time. But now that I'm in college and am meeting other girls from other places, I'm realizing how incredibly unique she actually was and what a great person she is compared to 99% of the people I know. I can't believe that I missed my chance with her. It really ticks me off that I didn't at least try.

So now that I've blown my shot with her, I come to my question: will there ever be another girl appreciably close to her in terms of personality and character? More generally: can any given person find what he's looking for in terms of companionship -- be it platonic friendship or non-platonic relationship -- wherever he is? If he desires certain traits in friends, can he find those regardless of location?

I know that we can never find one person who is EXACTLY like another person. That much is quite obvious. But I would think that we can find other people who are similar to those in our past. At least in terms of personality. Am I right? Will I eventually find a girl like the one I wish I'd gotten? Will I find people who are like-minded and who complement me socially? Are some friends or spouses truly one-in-a-million, or is it more like one-in-a-few-hundred?

09-29-2005, 06:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
amire Crazy	How unique are we, exactly? --or -- Will I ever find another like her? Hello all. Two things really quick before I go into the meat of my post: first of all, if this is in the wrong forum, please feel free to move my post. My question has its roots in semi-romantic feelings I have had for someone, but it's much more general than a question about romance, as you will see. And if I've missed a thread with a similar topic, please do stop me. I know there's one asking if we can ever truly be unique, and this is related to what I'm asking, but it's not an identical question. Ok, so here's how this all came about. When I was in high school, I had a semi-crush on a REALLY nice, fun, awesome girl. But I never really pursued her as much as I should have, and she didn't seem amazing at the time. But now that I'm in college and am meeting other girls from other places, I'm realizing how incredibly unique she actually was and what a great person she is compared to 99% of the people I know. I can't believe that I missed my chance with her. It really ticks me off that I didn't at least try. So now that I've blown my shot with her, I come to my question: will there ever be another girl appreciably close to her in terms of personality and character? More generally: can any given person find what he's looking for in terms of companionship -- be it platonic friendship or non-platonic relationship -- wherever he is? If he desires certain traits in friends, can he find those regardless of location? I know that we can never find one person who is EXACTLY like another person. That much is quite obvious. But I would think that we can find other people who are similar to those in our past. At least in terms of personality. Am I right? Will I eventually find a girl like the one I wish I'd gotten? Will I find people who are like-minded and who complement me socially? Are some friends or spouses truly one-in-a-million, or is it more like one-in-a-few-hundred?