Okay...
I'm going to stir up the pot here and get to the core of the matter. But first, I got some questions.
1) What was your rationale for posting this? Do you want a group of anonymous individuals to tell you it's okay to cheat on your wife?
-OR-
Are you looking for us to tell you that you are wrong and you are looking for ideas on how not to do this anymore?
The thing is...you wouldn't have told us if you were okay with what you are doing. I just want to know what answer are you looking for. Permission or redemption?
2) Do you know why you cheat? Is it a hyper sex drive that she couldn't possibly fufill? Are there certain acts that she won't perform? Is it just an ego thing? Do you need the constant reaffirmation of your attractiveness?
You see.... this is the meat of the issue. The *why* is all important. And sadly, that's something that's the hardest to figure out. It could be her- It could be you, It could just be chemistry. But it's gotta be something.
Go and ponder my friend...that is, of course if you are unhappy with your current setup. If you're happy...then none of this matters, and remember to wrap that rascal!
oh- I know it doesn't sound like it, but I'm not being trite purposefully, These are the issues as I see them.
Luck,
mr sticky
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