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Saying "I'm just not marriage material" or "I'm the kind of guy who has to try everything" is a cop-out, IMHO. Our personalities are not set in stone. You may lean one way or another, personality-wise, but in the end what defines us are the choices we make, and it sounds like you've made some questionable ones.
Bottom line: do you want to be married to your wife? Is being with her worth doing what it takes to make her happy?
If the answer is yes: do what it takes. Period. Choose it now, then choose it tomorrow morning, choose it when the 19-year-old hottie flirts with you, choose it every day. It might take you some counseling to see why you have a problem with comimtment and faithfulness.
If the answer is no, do yourselves both a favor and call it quits. And don't "commit" to another relationship until you're ready to actually commit to that person, FOR that person, and not for the hope that it'll "cure" your wanderlust.
And, you might be a person for whom monogamy doesn't work. There are lots of such people. But it sounds like monogamy per se is not the problem; faithfulness and communication are. Even if you're not having a monogamous relationship, you still need to manage whatever relationships you are having with honesty and openness, and it sounds like those are where your problems lie.
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