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tim2shady · 09-28-2005, 02:37 PM

In some ways i feel i got married b/c that is what I'm supposed to do, so says society. I also said, i got married b/c i thought it would "tame" me down and make me happy w/ the white picket fence and all. Both are true statements, i feel.

And b/c i felt this way I don't think getting married was a mistake.

If i were all happy right now, i would say i married her b/c i love her. But i'm expressing why i'm not happy.

So, if i'm the guy who has to try all 31 flavors at the ice cream shop, why did i get married. I didn't know i was that guy, I'm finding that out now. Perhaps looking at my history it would appear obvious, all i can say to that is hindsight is 20/20. If i had a crystal ball I wouldn't be on this site.

I have spoken to my wife and told her that i don't think I'm "marriage material". I didn't get into infidelity, as that would end it, but I did express my feelings that i thought getting married would make me happy and "tame" me down. Her response was "do you want me to leave". Yes and NO, i want my cake and eat it too. I can't continue with that, and I won't.

The bigger question for me is monogomy, when can it work for me?

Am I part of an ever growing group who find they can't be with only one person sexually? That i've done but remember all my relationships have been less than 2 yrs.

Or am I part of a group who can't be in long-term relationships that require monogomy?
Or I am the guy who can't settle down yet?
I love her, but i gotta bang someone else for a while.

If i was married to someone who was open to the idea of an "open" marriage, would i be hear now? Not sure. That one would seem to solve my problem here tho. BUT, she couldn't sleep with other men. Yes, its a pig like statement, but I can mess around, she can't.

So, one-sided, sexually yes I am. Other ways I'm not, she spends the money, drives the nicer vehicle, and frequently gets her way (I'm not saying thats bad, I just don't care what color the bathroom wall is).

I think I'm just a guy who likes to try all the flavors, but wants the same one in the freezer at home. Not gonna work, not with this woman.

So, can I change? Dunno.

Now, I've rambled a bit, but blow me the fuck up, i read all statements.

09-28-2005, 02:37 PM	#12 (permalink)
tim2shady Tilted Location: Chicago, IL	In some ways i feel i got married b/c that is what I'm supposed to do, so says society. I also said, i got married b/c i thought it would "tame" me down and make me happy w/ the white picket fence and all. Both are true statements, i feel. And b/c i felt this way I don't think getting married was a mistake. If i were all happy right now, i would say i married her b/c i love her. But i'm expressing why i'm not happy. So, if i'm the guy who has to try all 31 flavors at the ice cream shop, why did i get married. I didn't know i was that guy, I'm finding that out now. Perhaps looking at my history it would appear obvious, all i can say to that is hindsight is 20/20. If i had a crystal ball I wouldn't be on this site. I have spoken to my wife and told her that i don't think I'm "marriage material". I didn't get into infidelity, as that would end it, but I did express my feelings that i thought getting married would make me happy and "tame" me down. Her response was "do you want me to leave". Yes and NO, i want my cake and eat it too. I can't continue with that, and I won't. The bigger question for me is monogomy, when can it work for me? Am I part of an ever growing group who find they can't be with only one person sexually? That i've done but remember all my relationships have been less than 2 yrs. Or am I part of a group who can't be in long-term relationships that require monogomy? Or I am the guy who can't settle down yet? I love her, but i gotta bang someone else for a while. If i was married to someone who was open to the idea of an "open" marriage, would i be hear now? Not sure. That one would seem to solve my problem here tho. BUT, she couldn't sleep with other men. Yes, its a pig like statement, but I can mess around, she can't. So, one-sided, sexually yes I am. Other ways I'm not, she spends the money, drives the nicer vehicle, and frequently gets her way (I'm not saying thats bad, I just don't care what color the bathroom wall is). I think I'm just a guy who likes to try all the flavors, but wants the same one in the freezer at home. Not gonna work, not with this woman. So, can I change? Dunno. Now, I've rambled a bit, but blow me the fuck up, i read all statements. __________________ mean people suck.....period.