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Seeker · 08-27-2005, 05:38 PM

Wag, cutting class... I'm not sure if the term is familiar, but it's called wagging school here...

I really don't know where to go with this. This might not seem so much of a problem, but I am having a difficult time trying to justify my initial reaction or answer to this dilemma.

My daughter has come home just recently and wants to know if I will give her permission to wag school next year (when she enters high school) so she can spend a day on on the town with her friends. The reason she is asking is her friends apparently have the permission from their parents, but only if they know about it.

My initial response is "no"... but I find myself stuck because if I say no, she will probably do it anyway behind my back and I'm not sure if it is better that I do know when it occurrs. Also, if I say no, and enforce it, she will be the odd one out amongst her friends and ultimately I don't know how far that will impinge with her relations with her peers.

At the same time, I am not comfortable with allowing it. It's disregarding the law and promoting a behaviour and disrespect I don't agree with.

I really don't know how to go about this. Am I sticking to 'old fashioned' values? What is most important here? What's up with these other parents?

I would love some input.

08-27-2005, 05:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Seeker Getting Clearer Location: with spirit	Wagging school? Wag, cutting class... I'm not sure if the term is familiar, but it's called wagging school here... I really don't know where to go with this. This might not seem so much of a problem, but I am having a difficult time trying to justify my initial reaction or answer to this dilemma. My daughter has come home just recently and wants to know if I will give her permission to wag school next year (when she enters high school) so she can spend a day on on the town with her friends. The reason she is asking is her friends apparently have the permission from their parents, but only if they know about it. My initial response is "no"... but I find myself stuck because if I say no, she will probably do it anyway behind my back and I'm not sure if it is better that I do know when it occurrs. Also, if I say no, and enforce it, she will be the odd one out amongst her friends and ultimately I don't know how far that will impinge with her relations with her peers. At the same time, I am not comfortable with allowing it. It's disregarding the law and promoting a behaviour and disrespect I don't agree with. I really don't know how to go about this. Am I sticking to 'old fashioned' values? What is most important here? What's up with these other parents? I would love some input. __________________ *To those who wander but who are not lost...* ~ Knowledge is not something you acquire, it is something you open yourself to.