Just say no..and explain
The first thing to think about is what you already said, and most have repeated it to you...You don't feel comfortable with the idea.
Entering into a sexual relationship is a big commitment. Comfort level and trust is ultimatly what you base a realtionship on. If your not ready, say so. Talk about it. Explain your perspective. Let her explain hers. Maybe once you do this, some comfort will come to you. maybe not.
I know from experience that it is a huge step to move to separate playgrounds.
My wife and I originally talked about a threesome, but I felt more comfortable with a foursome. We discussed each others fears and limits and then proceeded. It was a wonderful experience and that led to more comfort with each others desires and fantasies.
We have progressed now, and she has had a couple of experieces on her own, which I enjoy hearing all about. This trust and understanding came with time and open discussion.
You may never be open to it, and that's ok. If you are, always keep and open discussion on what is happening, you never know, you may get a real "kink" out of it!
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