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Originally Posted by Gilda
Not all about size. Jet Li is about my size, 5' 6" 130 lbs., and I doubt many people of any size intimidate him. Bruce Lee was about my size.
So I realize that it isn't all about size.
But the vast majority of the time, yeah, size and ability to inflict harm are what lead to "intimidation." There's reason most of the bullies are bigger kids and bouncers are big guys. There's a reason why women don't fight men in the ring, and why there are weight classes in boxing and wrestling. Size and strength make a big difference.
Gilda
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Only if it gets physical. It's the build up, it's the first few moments before the attacker settles on his course of action that are the most important. Just take a look at animals in the wild. The hair on a dog's back will rise, cats lay back their ears, bears will stand up on their hind legs and rattlesnakes...well, rattle, all in an attempt to get someone/something to leave them alone.
The point I'm trying to make is that you don't actually have to be physically intimidating to be intimidating. It's body position, stance, mannerisms. The guy who groped you had no idea if you could actually kick the dog snot out of him or not. Your mannerisms told him it wasn't likely and he played the odds. You don't have to be this great, big, daring do-er, braving the rapids and forging boldly ahead, but you should be able to, at the very least, tread a little water once in a while.
I hate to keep harping on this, but it's very important. I used to be a jack-of-all-trades (painting, fixing things, lawnwork, etc...) at a woman's shelter. Sometimes I think I've heard all the horrible stories a person can stand to hear in one lifetime. I'd hate to hear another one.
By the way, the biggest bully in my high school was a guy named 'Brad.' 'Brad' stood all of 5'2" with his leather 'biker' boots on. Even I, at a foot taller and 100 lbs heavier, watched where I stepped when he was around.
