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Originally Posted by raeanna74
I really believe that body language has a lot to do with it.
A couple questions first and then I'll post more later:
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I'm assuming you're referring to when dealing with other adults in an informal situation, and when I'm by myself here. It's a lot different if it's a formal situation such as in class or talking to a parent, and it's quite a bit different when I'm with Grace or Sissy.
In whatever way is most comfortable in the given situation. It isn't something that I've analyzed.
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1. Do you hold your head up while walking or look toward the ground? Is your chin/jaw generally level with the floor.
2. Do your shoulders and back form a slight curve forward or more backward (military style - or it feels that way somewhat)?
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Couldn't tell you. It isn't something that I think about.
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3. Do you take short steps or do you stretch your legs out forward as you walk briskly?
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I tend to take short steps. I wear heels most days and that's "trained" my walk to accommodate.
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4. If you encounter someone's eyes how long do you hold their gaze? How many seconds?
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It depends. If it's a guy, and it's a social situation, I tend to look away pretty quickly. I don't want to give them the impression that I'm interested and want to flirt.
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5. If you encounter someone's eyes and then look away, which direction do you're eyes go? Do they slide sideways? do they close and then look away? Do you slide your gaze down?
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I don't know. I'll look wherever I was looking before hand. Probably down. It isn't something that I think about.
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I have personally found ways to invite advances when I WANT to flirt or to turn them away when I dislike the advances. These ways use Primarily the body language areas mentioned above.
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When I'm by myself, I never want to flirt. Sometimes when I'm with Grace, because then I know it's safe, and she always makes it clear to the guy or guys that they have no chance whatsoever with either of us, but that doesn't always keep them from wanting to flirt. In those situations, though, I tend to just follow her lead.
I know I'm not sending any signals that say I'm interested. Some guys obviously misread them, as I do get hit on sometimes, but I really don't mind the casual "are you interested" type of inquiry. That's kind of flattering.
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Originally Posted by clavus
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Originally Posted by guthmund
He sized you up and found you wanting.
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Probably a poor choice in words. Before anybody goes off on guthmund, I don't believe he used the word "wanting" to imply desire. |
I understood what he meant and wasn't offended.
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Originally Posted by guthmund
raeanna is absolutely on the mark about it all being about body language. You say nobody screws with Grace? Watch her walk in public sometimes. Watch her interact with strangers. I imagine the differences are very noticiable.
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Probably. There's not really any way for me to watch myself the way I do her, though. I assume what differences there are are due to her being an athlete and highly skilled martial artist.
More to come.
Gilda