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Originally Posted by innovis
Astrahl, what exactly do you desire from your husband that he does not give to you? Do you need lust and passion and experimentation?
Why do you regret not having sex with anyone else? What would you have now, if you'd had sex, that you do not have? Knowledge that your husband may indeed suck or be passionless?
By the way, have you recently had children or does he work a very stressful job?
I'd recommend expending all options(counceling, sex therapy) BEFORE thinking about going outside the marriage, or even mentioning it. If you tell your husband you regret not having sex with anyone else, and may want to, do you think he'll want to have sex with you more?
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It isn't that he doesn't do something I want, but I have never known another man that way. I regret it because I denied myself the experience of other people for no good reason. If I had another partner, I would at least know what somebody else feels like.
There are no children and no other highly stressful areas of the relationship. This is just a matter of me getting suckered into the "good girls" mentality and regreting it now.
I never had the rebellious time of life in my 20's. Most people do the college thing and get all of that out of their system. I was always a good girl...through high school and through college and then, with the sudden death of my father just before college graduation, I was thrust into the caretaker role. I never got a chance to live life with the reckless abandon most people get when they are that young.
Now I am just into my 30's and I'm getting to feel like I was cheated out of youth. A big part of that was the domineering attitude my parents and family had over dating and sexuality. I know there is more to this issue than just sex, but I think that it plays a big part.