Gilda, I'm not sure how often you get groped, sounds like a couple or more incidents, spread out over time. I deal with this on a regular basis. Always have. I don't believe for a second that the 'ass' pat is ever accidental. These are just too lingering, and don't feel like bumps.
Almost everytime I ride the transit i get the 'pat' - more in the summer. And if it is accidental, why are women less clumsy than men??? I've never had my breast groped, except for one dentist who rested his forearm along mine once along time ago.
I am very vigilant now, and it has become a challenge to try and ward off these rather pathetic attempts to touch me. I have a feeling that they think I am a person of minority who is shy and unwilling to either stand up for herself, or to complain. But I do both. One of the creepiest times was not a grope, but a sidle. i was at the grocery store, examining the cheese, and felt a warmth behind me. I turned around to find a stranger standing right behind me, pretending to look over my shoulder. He was almost right against me. I think he was smelling my hair, but if I moved back, I would have pressed right into him.
So it think these guys are opportunistic. They get off on that 'just one more chick' to add to their score. I just try not to become a notch in their staff.
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