What a fucknut. This is why I get all over-protective of my female friends (most of whom are physically smaller than I). Because I'm aggressive. Very. If someone's sidling, they get direct eyecontact and if they're skeevy, they get distinct cold-shoulder-leave-me-the-fuck-alone-dirtbag vibes. Don't get me wrong, I'm usually pretty friendly, but I will turn on the anger vibes to scare them off when necessary. I've been places you've been, Gilda. I know how it is to be too startled or intimidated to fight back. But these days... no more. It's good to be a little mad. This guy is an asshole, and yeah, I would wonder about his escalation of such events. Bet he's a fucking peeping tom too.
/deep breath
YOU didn't do anything wrong. I would bet you don't give off a lot of confident vibes, or bitch vibes in all situations. That's what you'll want to learn. No one has ever grabbed my breast, and I feel that's because of the way I present myself, my body language. (I sorta look harmless, blond chick with young features, etc.) Decide what you want to project, and feel it. It's sort of like wearing Deet for mosquitoes... they leave you alone and don't even realize why most of the time.
However.... please don't take my advice to mean I think it was you. I don't. He's still a fucking cocknugget of scum. However, putting out a stronger vibe of what you want them to see might help you. Don't feel like these people target you. Feel like they wouldn't dare.
I'm sorry this happened. I only wish I had been there to teach the fucker a lesson. Next time (though I pray there isn't one), you'll teach 'em.
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