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My advice on this subject is simple.
1: Don't do it. Explain to her why you're uncomfortable with the situation. Let her know that if she does it on her own... the marriage is over. Be firm about it; but remember also... it wasn't much of a problem when you wanted another women in the bedroom. That or at least you don't sound like you're complaining about it. You give some to get some.
2: I'll only say this once.... YOU HAVE CHILDREN!!!! If this situation gets out in any way and they're in the middle of it, may god have mercy on your soul! Those kids will not grow up well adjusted by the actions that you and your wife take now. Think about how they're going to feel if any of this is found out or if you get a divorce; because of it.
3: Last, but not least. Seek couples therapy! The both of you sound like there is a major trust issue going on and it seems that it's spinning out of control. If you don't do something now then you and your wife/children will be scarred for life, if they're not already.
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