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Wow, deja vu. My ex pulled that with me. Twice. I was really over weight before I met him due to a medical issue. By the time I met him, I'd dropped 45 lbs, but still had plenty to lose. He left after eight months and only later admitted that it was because he was affected by my weight and wanted to see if he could have a relationship with an overweight person.

Fast forward five months and I'd dropped another 45 and four sizes at the gym. We tried again, but I still "just don't do it for [him] that way". I have some issues with the leftovers from all that weight gain/loss, but everyone tells me I look great. I love being thinner and am mostly confindent in my skin, but it tears me up that he was that shallow. And has the nerve to admit it. So the "love" that I thought we had couldn't never have been true if he couldn't have seen past that. The funny thing is... after he left, he gained most of what I lost. But he was never any less sexy to me. I love my man with a little extra meat. And one who'll hit the gym, bike path, and a good restaurant with me.

We're friends now, but I'll never get past that issue with him. Even though he encourages me to better myself, it's almost hypocritical. My (slightly larger than I'd like) gut just keeps saying that if a guy can't get past your weight, then is it really all that? I whole-heartedly support women being happy with their weight. I just wasn't with mine. And it's sad and frustrating when someone even slightly hints about weiht in an unconstructive manner. Those little comments end up sounding snide. Instead, join a gym together, buy mountain bikes, whatever... just avoid making those little hints about losing weight in an excessive manner.

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