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Rubyee · 07-28-2005, 01:09 PM

So I haven't had a real relationship with my father ever since the age of 15. I am 22 now. He is kind of an ass. I am going to try and explain this as quickly as I can.

My parents divorced when I was 12. My dad remarried first to a woman that does not like me, and needless to say we never got alone. He moved an hour away with her.

He used to pick me up every other weekend so that I could spend time with him, but he worked in the city I lived in on the weekends so my time was spent in a town of 5000 with his wife.

We had arguements and screamfests and many things were said to me that I cannot forget. At the age of 16, he would start driving off with my little sister in the truck before I came out of the house. We stopped talking after a while aside from the occasional hello at a family function.

You see, I don't really miss the fact that I don't have a relationship with him. I don't really like who he is- he is not a nice person, nor is he a person with whom I could be friends ever. But lately his side of the family has started blaming me for the lack of a relationship. I know, I shouldn't let it bother me. It isn't entirely my fault. But it is starting to piss me off. I have told them time and time again that it really isn't their business, and it is between him and I. But they don't listen.

I want this whole thing to be over. I want to tell him to fuck off, and that if HE wants a relationship that HE can call me and HE can start acting like an adult should. I never realized that it was the responsibility of the child to make the relationship. However, if I do that, it will seem as if I am taking the blame for all of this, which I most assuredly am not.

It makes me mad that he will not do anything about it. But he has too much pride to do anything. My birthday was on the 10th. He called me on the 8th to ask what kind of gift certificate to send me. He then asked me what I was doing that night. I told him that I had plans, so he got pissed off and said that he would just send it in the mail. I have yet to see it yet. However, he will think that that was his attempt at forging a relationship. That was a pretty shitty attempt, if you ask me.

Anyhow, any of you have any input into this situation? It is hard for me to see past my own point of view in this situation, which normally isn't hard for me to do at all, so let me know what you think.

07-28-2005, 01:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	Father Daughter Trouble So I haven't had a real relationship with my father ever since the age of 15. I am 22 now. He is kind of an ass. I am going to try and explain this as quickly as I can. My parents divorced when I was 12. My dad remarried first to a woman that does not like me, and needless to say we never got alone. He moved an hour away with her. He used to pick me up every other weekend so that I could spend time with him, but he worked in the city I lived in on the weekends so my time was spent in a town of 5000 with his wife. We had arguements and screamfests and many things were said to me that I cannot forget. At the age of 16, he would start driving off with my little sister in the truck before I came out of the house. We stopped talking after a while aside from the occasional hello at a family function. You see, I don't really miss the fact that I don't have a relationship with him. I don't really like who he is- he is not a nice person, nor is he a person with whom I could be friends ever. But lately his side of the family has started blaming me for the lack of a relationship. I know, I shouldn't let it bother me. It isn't entirely my fault. But it is starting to piss me off. I have told them time and time again that it really isn't their business, and it is between him and I. But they don't listen. I want this whole thing to be over. I want to tell him to fuck off, and that if HE wants a relationship that HE can call me and HE can start acting like an adult should. I never realized that it was the responsibility of the child to make the relationship. However, if I do that, it will seem as if I am taking the blame for all of this, which I most assuredly am not. It makes me mad that he will not do anything about it. But he has too much pride to do anything. My birthday was on the 10th. He called me on the 8th to ask what kind of gift certificate to send me. He then asked me what I was doing that night. I told him that I had plans, so he got pissed off and said that he would just send it in the mail. I have yet to see it yet. However, he will think that that was his attempt at forging a relationship. That was a pretty shitty attempt, if you ask me. Anyhow, any of you have any input into this situation? It is hard for me to see past my own point of view in this situation, which normally isn't hard for me to do at all, so let me know what you think. __________________ You don't know from fun.