Originally Posted by fhqwhgads

If there was a girl that you had feelings for, and she sent you roses with a note telling you that she felt the same way, you'd be all over it. I doubt the words "I need time to think about it" would ever come out of you mouth.

What I'm trying to say is that sometimes people want to turn someone down, but not hurt their feelings, so they use softer language... they say "I'm just not ready", or "I like you, but..." or "Let me think about it." They aren't interested, but they don't want to be an asshole and say "I don't want to date you."

The problem is, when they aren't definitive, and they use the softer language, they kind of string you along. You end up thinking that there is still a chance, when there really isn't. Then you start looking for signs that she really *does* care, because you want to hold on to hope.

Move on, my friend. She's either turning you down and trying not to be cruel about it, or she's playing some kind of game with you that you don't want to be involved in.