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Originally Posted by lurkette
I also fail to see why people have such a hard time accepting non-traditional relationships when the evidence seems to point to the relative non-viability of traditional monogamous marriage. I'm not at all surprised that people would seek out alternatives that left their marriage intact but stretched the boundaries of what people considered to be "marriage." I AM surprised at the judgmental statements I've seen - I thought TFP of all places would be a lot more open to new ideas, but I guess old paradigms die hard.
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I think it has more to do with the age of the posters. I know my opinions on this sort of thing at 20 were a lot different than at 35. You often get people who have been cheated on in the past and hurt badly by it and therefore react very strongly to this type of relationship. Sometimes people turn to this sort of relationship to save a marriage when in reality this type of thing will mostly likely destroy a weak marriage.
What you hear are the horror stories, and normally only the freaks are willing to go on tv and talk about it, so its easy to classify the people as somehow disfunctional.